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Being Liked, Important or Valuable in School
by Ron Kurtus (18 August 2002)
Being liked, admired, important or valuable in school is something most students want. You must realize that others want the same thing. You can achieve your goals by doing things others appreciate. It is worth your while to try to be valuable to those with whom you deal.
Questions you may have include:
- What do you want?
- What do others in school want?
- How do you become valuable or admired?
This lesson will answer those questions. There is a mini-quiz near the end of the lesson.
What you want
It is a good feeling to know you are liked, admired, valuable or important to others.
By other students
You probably want to be liked and admired by your friends and fellow students. If you were part of a team or group, you'd like to be accepted and considered an important member.
By teachers
Since part of the grades you get depends in your relationship with your teacher, you probably want to be liked and respected by your teachers.
By parents
Obviously, you want to feel your parents love you and that you are important to them.
What others want
The people you deal with have things they want in their relationship with you. What they want is similar to what you want and makes you feel good in the relationship.
Teachers
Teachers feel happy and satisfied if the students in their classes behave, pay attention, learn and do well in class. They also enjoy having a friendly relationship with their students.
Other students
Your friends and acquaintances enjoy to talk about things of interest, as well as to be involved in fun activities.
Parents
Your parents will feel good and be proud of you, if you do well in school. Though, they will still love you, even if you don't do well.
There are extreme cases where kids will try to please their parents too much, such that they don't have a life of their own.
Become valuable
You should take care of yourself to become valuable. A way to get the good feeling of being liked, admired, valuable and important is to provide others what they want. You can get what you want by helping others get what they want.
To teachers
By doing your assignments, behaving and trying to be a good student, your teachers will probably like you, feel you are important to their class and give you better grades.
Of course, trying too hard can backfire. Even teachers can see through the "apple-polisher" or person who patronizes the teacher in hopes of getting better grades.
Be aware of the teacher's needs, but yet be your own person.
To other students
By having the same interests as your friends and other students, you will be liked. If you do things outstanding, you may be admired. Some kids have the looks, personality or such that they are desired as a friend.
Kids who try too hard to be liked often are scorned. You need to know what interests the other students or find others who are interested in what you like.
Conflict
A problem is that the other kids can dislike a student who plays up to the teacher too much. Sometimes talking back to the teachers and goofing-off in class can win the admiration of fellow classmates. They like someone who isn't afraid and rebels. The problem is that grades can suffer by that behavior.
It is good to try to keep your teacher happy to a degree, but don't do it so much that you alienate the other kids. A little rebellion is fine, but you also must make sure you don't screw up your grades.
Summary
You want to be liked, admired, important and valuable in school. Others want the same thing. You achieve your goal by doing things others appreciate. It is worthwhile to try to be valuable to others.
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If you got all three correct, you are on your way to becoming a Champion in Getting Good Grades. If you had problems, you had better look over the material again.
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